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Torah Lessons for the Home — Bamidbar 5784

Выпуск: Torah Lessons for the Home — Bamidbar 5784. Темы: wigs_headcovering, family_education, relationships_shalom_bayit, parsha_commentary. Поисковые термины: парик, парики, косынка, покрытие головы, wig, wigs, head covering, sheitel, tichel, פאה, פאות, כיסוי ראש, מטפחת, воспитание, дети, семья, chinuch, family, חינוך, ילדים. In a Yiddishe home, each person needs to know the difference between “mine, yours, and ‫לעילוי נשמת‬ ours.” Virtually all problems in the area of shalom bayis revolve ‫ר׳ נפתלי צבי ב״ר‬ around a lack of understanding or agreement on boundaries, with ‫משה שמואל ע״ה‬ one or more people crossing boundaries and trying to control or impose on others. What it does mean is that just as parents have a general obligation to be mechanech their children, but aren’t necessarily obligated to police their children’s behavior at each and every moment, so too each spouse may and should be aware in a general sense of what the other is doing without being controlling in any way. With all the “right” a husband has, Chazal tell us, “Just as it is a mitzvah to say something that a person will listen to, it is a mitzvah to refrain from saying something that a person won’t listen to.” If a husband sees that pointing something out isn’t helping (or is making things worse), then it is clearly better to remain silent. Even if he believes that it’s his responsibility to “do something about the situation,” he should understand that if he can’t actually achieve his goal, being that registering his protest at regular intervals is likely to be counter-productive, it’s best to refrain. Sometimes it takes the right moment made above, with my comments inserted: of introspection, or a search for a zechus, to arouse someone To my dear wife, to internalize or implement something you mentioned, or to use I wanted to send you this letter due to what we were that opportunity to grow in another area. to you because when I try to discuss something with you, ••• something that makes you feel uncomfortable, you get all One of my rules in communication is that a person can say worked up about it, and you tell me that you don’t want to virtually anything, as long as he knows how, and when. Most issues [Telling someone that they get “all worked up” is likely to aren’t black-and-white, but problems start when each person make them feel quite bad too.] insists on seeing it that way,

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Torah Lessons for the Home

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6 июня 2024 г.

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4

Темы: wigs_headcovering, family_education, relationships_shalom_bayit, parsha_commentary