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Torah Lessons for the Home — tl terumah 5785

Выпуск: Torah Lessons for the Home — tl terumah 5785. Темы: family_education, relationships_shalom_bayit, health_mind, parsha_commentary. Поисковые термины: воспитание, дети, семья, chinuch, family, חינוך, ילדים, משפחה, шалом байт, брак, отношения, shalom bayit, marriage, שלום בית, זוגיות, здоровье, психология, стресс, health, mental. The Chida explains the concept of terumah using the example of a rich man who keeps a store of coins already set aside for the poor in his pocket so that whenever someone approaches him for a donation, it’s easy for him to give because in his mind, the money has already been donated. Often, people in similar situations are tempted to present the issue in very stark black-and-white terms: “How can he not understand that...” “She has to realize that...” as if the problem is entirely one of the other person’s bad middos and the only solution is for the other person to “improve.” They really believe that once the other person fixes themselves, everything will be fine. It might be currently unrealistic for you, but I would suggest that anyone feeling overwhelmed should first reassess their obligations and try to find areas where they can take it a bit easier in order not to reach that point of exhaustion, especially so early in the evening. The same is true for a mother who doesn’t go out to work but over-exerts herself to produce fancy meals that her husband doesn’t require or even necessarily appreciate, or to keep the house spotlessly clean when she really doesn’t have the time or energy to do so. In your case, I have no idea whether you could (temporarily much as people don’t like giving up, holding on to unrealistic or permanently) cut back your hours at work, hire a cleaner to expectations is often a huge source of aggravation that grows take some of the pressure off you, or cook simpler suppers mid- over time. Be nice in your entire approach; don’t give (even before you say anything to your husband) by simply smiling your husband any reason to be reminded of how cranky you can and relaxing a little just for those important first five minutes ( justifiably) become when you’re over-tired and upset. This isn’t instead of watching the clock, you could mentally readjust to the same as tacitly admitting that he doesn’t have to be home the idea that he isn’t getting home until ten past seven and find by then, that if you didn’t ask he could

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Torah Lessons for the Home

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27 февраля 2025 г.

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Темы: family_education, relationships_shalom_bayit, health_mind, parsha_commentary