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Torah Lessons for the Home — TL Toldos 5784

Выпуск: Torah Lessons for the Home — TL Toldos 5784. Темы: family_education, parsha_commentary. Поисковые термины: воспитание, дети, семья, chinuch, family, חינוך, ילדים, משפחה, недельная глава, парша, parsha, פרשה, פרשת השבוע. The Gemara relates a similar idea when relating what Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakai told his talmidim: “Yehi ratzon shetehei mora Shamayim k’mora basar This week's essay ve’dam—May it be Hashem’s will that you fear Hashem as much as you fear is kindly sponsored your fellow humans.” When his talmidim expressed surprise, Rabbi Yochanan ‫לזכוי הרבים‬ said, “halevai—if only” people would be as concerned about what Hashem in honor of Y. Unfortunately, nothing has changed since and we can all think of examples ‫בברכת כי אורך ימים ושנות חיים‬ of people, probably including ourselves, who act one way at home when “no one ‫יוסיפו לך עד מאה ועשרים שנה‬ sees” and another way entirely when we want to make a good impression for “the world.” It can be very disappointing for a husband or wife to see how their spouse knows very well how to say “thank you” and be mevater and generally behave properly at a social occasion, whereas at home, they don’t make the effort to behave like a mensch. ‫ב"ד‬ RABBI SHIMON GRUEN Torah Lessons for the Home THE GIVING AND TAKING OF A COMPLIMENT The Torah in this week’s parshah describes Eisav as an “ish yodeia tzayid, ish sadeh—a man who understands hunting, a man of the field,” and Yaakov Avinu as an “ish tam yosheiv ohalim—a pure-hearted man who sits in the tents.” In his sefer Chaim v’Shalom, the Munkatcher Rav ztz”l asks why the Torah uses the word “ish” twice when describing Eisav, and only once when describing Yaakov. Another thing: Whenever I thank him for doing something that I could see was hard for him and I tell him how important it was for me, I see that he feels really uncomfortable about me noticing what he did, so I asked him if he’d prefer that I don’t thank him and he said he “doesn’t know.” I explained that I like thanking him and expressing my gratitude for what he does, but he said that he doesn’t know if it’s a good idea. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and no one should worry about being or seeming “needy” or “silly” because they like to hear a “thank you.” Most of us would do well to give many more compliments than we do, and we also need to know how to receive them graciously. I don’t want to feel like

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Torah Lessons for the Home

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17 ноября 2023 г.

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Темы: family_education, parsha_commentary