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Torah Lessons for the Home — TL Terumah 5784

Выпуск: Torah Lessons for the Home — TL Terumah 5784. Темы: relationships_shalom_bayit, health_mind, parsha_commentary. Поисковые термины: шалом байт, брак, отношения, shalom bayit, marriage, שלום בית, זוגיות, здоровье, психология, стресс, health, mental, בריאות, נפש, недельная глава, парша, parsha, פרשה, פרשת השבוע. The passuk states, “Veyikchu-Li trumah—And they shall take for Me an offering,” and Rashi explains the inclusion of “for Me” as Hashem’s instruction that donations be “dedicated to My name.” After all, we can’t actually give anything to Hashem, as everything already belongs to Him. It’s very common in relationships for friction to arise when one person gives and the other complains that “it’s not what I wanted” or “you didn’t give it the right way.” What’s less common is couples figuring out what the real problem is and learning how to approach such issues in a constructive way. She’ll tell me, “I’ll teach you how to do things right — when you go shopping, you have to do it like this...” I’ve told her that I don’t like it when she tries to “teach” QU ESTION me things, and that she could just tell me what she thinks and I’ll listen, but I don’t like being “taught” stuff. On the other hand, if the other person has a clear THE In this particular situation, both husband and wife are agenda and they’re only interested in getting us to toe the FOR trying to create a positive solution for both of them, but the line for their own reasons, it’s understandable if we resist. If understanding.” you’re only listening to someone in order to go through the Being vulnerable and admitting that certain phrases motions and you’ve already made up your mind about the jolt our self-confidence isn’t always easy, but it does usually result you want, expect the other person to sense your lack improve communication and relationship issues. upset about someone “teaching” you things, and you don’t However, it’s important to recognize the difference between have to justify the way you feel, just as you don’t have to a troubling issue that is essentially one of preference, and pressure your wife to justify the way she feels about things one that is truly terrible and unacceptable.) As hard as it either. TORAH LESSONS FOR THE HOME: TERUMAH 5784 To contact Rabbi Gruen please call 718.841.6557 or e-mail rabbigruen@lehair.org To subscribe to receive the weekly essay, please email

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Torah Lessons for the Home

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4 февраля 2022 г.

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Темы: relationships_shalom_bayit, health_mind, parsha_commentary